Hi, I’m Josh Stewart.
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Thanks, Dad
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My Dad’s Dad died when he was five.
He didn’t have a Dad to teach him how to be a Dad.
He started from scratch and he figured it out.
As a Dad myself, that is something I refuse to take for granted.
At my Grandmother’s funeral, I got the chance to meet a lot of people who hadn’t seen me since I was just a few years old. There was one conversation I’ll never forget.
I was talking to one of my Dad’s old college buddies, and he was going on and on about what my Dad was like back in the day.
He said my Dad always had this “unexplainable cool factor” about him, that he had an enviable artistic talent, and that he was quite the party animal 😂
After a few more laughs, he said something I’ll never forget:
“You know, everything changed when you were born.”
He continued.
“Your Dad stopped partying.”
“He stopped hanging out with the guys.”
“He put his head down and worked harder than anyone else in school.”
“You changed him.”
Every time I think about that conversation, I get a little emotional.
I was born when my Dad was 19.
The odds were stacked against him.
No one made him do anything.
He chose to embrace the situation.
He chose to lean into adversity.
He chose to rise to the occasion.
His decision shifted his legacy and an entire lineage.
I love my Dad.
I also admire my Dad.
Love is a very powerful emotion, but it’s different than admiration.
Admiration is a feeling of high regard, respect, and appreciation for someone’s qualities and achievements.
The list of people I love is very long.
The list of people I admire is much shorter.
My Dad is at the top of both lists.
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House of Stewart
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As the leader of this house, I have to articulate these things clearly. It’s my job. If I fail to do so, it leaves the door open for others (who care much less) to clearly articulate the opposite values. I’m not going to let that happen on my watch.
Our Family Crest
Our family crest is rooted in purpose and intended to establish a sense of pride and rectitude for generations to come. The symbol unifies our lineage and represents the intentionality that unites us.
Our Family Manifesto
Good intentions are worthless without a plan of action — this is why our manifesto exists. What follows is a public declaration of our family’s purpose and intent.
We place our faith and trust in our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ.
We purposefully seek Him and He delights in the details of our lives.
We accept our circumstances and embrace ownership of our outcomes.
We understand that true freedom comes from discipline and that hurry is incompatible with love.
We accept that life was not intended to be easy, but acknowledge it can be full of joy and purpose when lived intentionally.
While others are anxious and afraid, we remain calm and unwavering, because we know who we are and we know where we’re going.
In a world of convenience and passivity, we are ambitious and resolute.
Each day is a gift—and we choose to live on purpose.
Our Core Values
The values we hold inform the decisions we make, the life we lead, and ultimately, who we become.
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We subscribe to a singular and absolute truth in the Bible, God’s living word.
It is our foundation and our compass.
Our lives have been marked by Christ.
If you don’t see it, you’re not paying attention.
We seek to fulfill the will of our Lord and Savior.
Our focus is on pleasing God, not man.
We refuse to let preferences get in the way of priorities.
Psalm 37:23
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We lead with gratitude.
Always.
You can’t be thankful for what you feel entitled to and won’t be entrusted with more until you can appreciate what you have.
If you *think* you have nothing to be thankful for, be thankful for the breath in your lungs.
When we appreciate the good in our life, we have more of it.
1 Thessalonians 5:18
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There, but for the grace of God, go any of us.
We were created in love, by love, for love, in the image of our creator. When we see others through this lens, we treat them the way Christ intended.
We lead with light and love in everything we do.
We practice empathy and default to a charitable interpretation of those around us.
2 Corinthians 9:6-8
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We recognize that discipline is trading what you want now for what you want most.
Time magnifies margin and multiplies whatever you feed it.
Outcomes are a lagging measure of your habits.
Good habits make time your ally, bad habits make time your enemy.
If you do what is easy your life will be hard.
Hebrews 12:11
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We are confident enough to keep trying, humble enough to keep learning.
Remember, the hero and the coward are both scared, but the hero steps forward focused on doing what is right.
Wisdom is discovered when seeking to understand what is right rather than trying to be right.
Confidence is quiet. Arrogance is not.
If we boast, let us boast in the Lord.
Jeremiah 9:23
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The proper goal of education is to develop character.
Moral failure comes from weakness of character.
We are prone to wonder. The best protection against evil is recognizing that it lies within every human heart.
What you fill your mind with will shape the trajectory of your character. For better or worse.
Every action is a vote cast toward the person you become.
Philippians 4:8
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2022: A Year I’ll Never Forget
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A year I’ll never forget.
2022 was a year I'll never forget for two specific reasons:
We welcomed our fourth (and final) child, Ruby Jane.
We also lost our beloved Laura (something we're all still processing).
Both of these events changed our family forever.
My mother-in-law’s legacy.
In Laura's final days, so many people came to her bedside to say goodbye. I watched people pour their hearts out in gratitude. These were people from all walks of life. They were friends and family alike. They brought food, they brought gifts, they held her hand, they prayed over her, they sang to her. It was beautiful.
She was unable to respond during these moments, but in my heart, I know she was moved. I can't begin to explain the impact it had on me.
Laura with Gwyn Estelle
Death is inevitable.
Here's the thing — death is inevitable, but it's ultimately death that makes life so precious. Like everything else, it was designed to be this way by our Creator. My feeble human mind hates it, but I acknowledge His ways are higher than mine.
If you know me, you know I ruminate and wrestle with ideas a lot.
Wisdom isn't found in certainty. Wisdom is knowing that while you might know a lot, there's also a lot you don't know.
For similar reasons, both the joys and trials of 2022 got me hyper-focused on one word: "legacy".
What is my impact on this earth?
What will people say of me when I'm gone?
A family crest, manifesto, and core values.
I've had this idea for years and I've tinkered with it off and on. In honor of Laura, I decided to lock myself in my office during Christmas break and made a commitment to get it to the finish line before the new year.
As the owner of a creative studio focused on branding, I've seen the immense value that comes alongside the clear articulation of values, purpose, and aesthetics. Good branding does more than identify and differentiate, it establishes a sense of pride and rectitude. So, I've decided to brand the most important organization in my life: my family.
I've intentionally crafted a manifesto, core values, slogan, and even established a family crest. I'm excited to share them with you very soon.
These values and ideas have already been vocalized to my children — but I'm a big believer that "clear writing is a sign of clear thinking".
From this day forward, not only will they be written on our hearts, but they will hang on our walls, and we will share them with the world.
As the leader of my house, I have to articulate these things clearly. It's my job. If I fail to do so, it leaves the door open for others (who care much less) to clearly articulate the opposite values. I'm not going to let that happen on my watch.
A tertiary goal of all this is to honor those who have gone before me (my grandparents, parents, in-laws, etc) while also raising the bar for the next generation (Jude, Lila, Gwyn, and Ruby).
It may sound funny, but I spend more time than the average 37-year-old thinking about my future grandkids. I don't plan on being a Grandpa any time soon (it's at minimum 10-15 years out, Lord willing), but I can't wait for that season of life. Getting old doesn't scare me one bit. One of my biggest goals in life is to be surrounded by those I love and have impacted for good when I'm on my deathbed. Sounds morbid, right? It's not. You can't correct what you are unwilling to confront. To further elaborate, I'd like to point you to the last 3 sentences of the Stewart Family Manifesto:
While others are anxious and afraid, we remain calm and unwavering, because we know who we are and we know where we're going. In a world of convenience and passivity, we are ambitious and resolute. Each day is a gift—and we choose to live on purpose.
If you made it to this point, thanks for reading.
I pray that I don't ever come across as someone who has life completely figured out because that couldn't be further from the truth. Social media makes it pretty easy to share the highlights, so just know I'm also screwing things up on a daily basis.
Rest assured, I'll continue to make mistakes, but I'll also continue to wear my heart on my sleeve, fight for my family, and proudly champion my beliefs.
Sorry for the novel.
I hope everyone is as excited about 2023 as I am.
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Jude is thirteen
Jude turned 13 today. I recorded the video below when he was three. Ten years ago. Ten years. Time is weird.
When Bre was pregnant with Jude, I vividly remember daydreaming about what being a Dad would be like, wondering what Jude would look like, what his voice would sound like. All the things. I can say with complete conviction that this kid is everything I ever dreamed of and more.
My responsibility as his father is to raise him to be a God-fearing, courageous, kind, loving, humble young man. I don’t take that responsibility lightly, and I’m proud to report that the trajectory is good.
I’ve got five more years with him under my roof, and I plan on making each one count.
Side note: when Jude was born, I was much less busy. So, naturally, I built him his own website and carefully crafted films to commemorate important milestones 🤷🏻♂️
Have a look-see → JudeOliver.com
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